A Bar in the Sky

So I went out to the Skybar last night for a friends birthday. I am only 27 not old at all and being at the skybar I am CLEARLY not the oldest or close to the oldest person there but I felt SO OLD. We get there and immediately I start dancing (which isn't surprising). I dance HARD, like I have kids at home and I haven't been out since 1999. After an hour or so I was done, I could have gone home and called it a night but I didn't drive. I pop a squat and cheered my friends on as they danced as if their life depended on it. As I sat there enjoying the band I became aware of a few things. I would like to share with you what I learned from being at the SkyBar.

The Skybar is the only place you can go and see someone who could be your grandfather and not feel bad about dropping it like it's hot.

You never have to worry about not looking fly... there is someone who looks 10x's worst.

It's the only black club you can go to and dance like you are at a white club.

You will feel like a celebrity if you dance b/c men will crowd around you and watch and then ask for your name and number afterwards.

Those same men, if rejected will go to the next female in your crew.

People grind on each other as if there isn't the option of getting a room.

Even on a cold rainy night the faithful will still come out and PARTY HARD.

One drink will have you really "RIGHT".

There are black people who can't dance.

There's something about a soulful singing white guys that fascinates black ppl (thanks RO)

Ok so today I will be going to a hip hop concert... hmm what will I learn from that.

Final Stretch

Today marks the 6 month of my consecration. It is amazing what I have experienced these few months. My relationship with God has grew exponentially and I have learned things about myself that I didn’t know before. Each month there has been themes and lessons which pushed me to grow in certain areas. Many of the lessons I am still learning and processing but I can say I have grown.

I will admit the consecration hasn’t been an easy one and I have done a lot of griping and complaining. There are areas I could have resisted and I’m sad to say I didn’t. At church on the “truth communication” was on being MUTE. I identified with being emotionally mute. The analogy that was used for emotionally mute was the TV (putting it on mute)... So why do we put the TV on mute... one example that was given.. was as a child when you are doing your homework and you want to still watch TV you put the TV on mute. You try to watch the TV and do your homework at the same time only to discover.. both are sucking. The other thing is you don't get the full experience from the TV because you can't hear it. He talked about singlehood and how God has called many ppl in this community to be single but they are trying to do follow their calling and put a relationship on mute.

This is where I come in. I have been called to singlehood right now and to consecrate myself and not date or hang out with men. I have been trying to continue my consecration while entertaining the idea of a relationship. In doing this I find myself frustrated and surfing this emotional wave.

I was talking to a close friend of mine last night and it hit me, I shared with her, when God calls you to be in a relationship there is no turning back, like that’s it, yall are moving forward. We really need to enjoy EVERYTHING that comes with being SINGLE…SINGLE.. like single not dating single.

In my last month I want to REALLY embrace all the wonderful things of not dating. Many of the principals I have learned will go from a 6 month consecration into a life style.